Supporting Kids with Sensory-Based Feeding Needs: The Power of Neutral, Descriptive Language

Mealtimes can feel overwhelming for some children—especially those with sensory-based feeding needs. The textures, smells, colors, and even the sounds of certain foods can be too much.

As parents and caregivers, one simple way to make mealtimes feel safer and less stressful is by shifting the way we talk about food.

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Why Language Matters at Mealtimes

It’s common to use emotional or judgmental language with food— “This is so yummy!” “Eww, that’s gross!”

But for kids with sensory sensitivities, these types of comments can add pressure or even increase anxiety. Instead, using neutral, descriptive language helps children explore food without feeling like they’re doing something right or wrong.

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What Does Neutral Language Sound Like?

Neutral language is about describing, not judging.

Here are some examples:

Instead of...	Try saying...
“This is so yummy!”	“This cracker is crunchy.”
“That’s gross!”	“This blueberry is squishy and sweet.”
“You have to try it!”	“This feels cold and smooth.”
“Don’t be picky.”	“This food is soft and sticky.”

This approach helps your child tune into their own experience of the food—what it looks like, feels like, sounds like, or smells like. It removes pressure and encourages curiosity.

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Why This Helps

• Reduces mealtime stress and anxiety

• Supports your child’s sensory awareness and vocabulary

• Encourages exploration without expectations

• Builds a more positive and trusting relationship with food

Children with sensory-based feeding needs often require many, low-pressure exposures to a food before they’re ready to touch, taste, or try it. Descriptive language helps them build comfort, step by step.

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Let’s Look at Real-Life Examples

Here are a few ways to try neutral, descriptive language during your daily routines:

During Mealtime:

• “These noodles are long and slippery.”

• “The cheese is soft and warm.”

• “This apple is red and shiny.”

• “The soup smells spicy.”

• “It makes a crunch when you bite it!”

When Exploring New Foods:

• “You touched it with your finger—that’s a great start.”

• “It feels bumpy, doesn’t it?”

• “You smelled it—what does it remind you of?”

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Remember:

There’s no rush. Building a positive relationship with food takes time—especially for kids with sensory sensitivities. Your calm, curious language helps your child feel safe to explore at their own pace.

Be patient. Stay curious. And keep the conversation descriptive, not directive.